Through counselling and psychotherapy we can learn to silence and starve this inner critic and, at the same time, feed and nourish our minds by self-acceptance, self-forgiveness and self-love.
The journey to wellness
We all have an invisible inner critic waiting to knock us down, but the journey to wellness will ensure that voice is drowned out, writes counsellor and psychotherapist Samantha Doyle
The journey to wellness may take some time to achieve, but I believe that everyone has the capacity to change and grow to reach their full potential, as well as to achieve some kind of inner peace.
This journey to wellness can take many forms. Counselling and psychotherapy can be truly effective for those that seek inner peace and wellness. At times, however, it can be difficult. I know this from helping many people over the years to get to a place of self-acceptance and inner peace, and eventually wellness. I’ve even been on that journey myself.
The journey to wellness begins with accepting that, right now, you are doing your best even if your best is destructive and unhelpful. It sounds counter-intuitive, but maybe all that you can manage to do at this moment is to cope.
We all have an invisible critic in our minds. This inner critic is not our friend; it is usually negative and mean, and is not good for our wellbeing. But we seem to listen to it all the same.
We tend to give this inner critic a lot of time and take the negative criticisms on board like they are true. Sometimes we can feel insecure, sad, not good enough, unloveable and harshly judged.
So why do we listen to this invisible inner critic?
Because the inner critic in our head is loud and always present. The inner critic feeds off our sadness and lack of self-esteem. We can always count on the inner critic to be around exactly when we need them to berate us and knock us down.
But through counselling and psychotherapy we can learn to silence and starve this inner critic and, at the same time, feed and nourish our minds by self-acceptance, self-forgiveness and self-love.
We can harness our own personal power and learn to understand how to satisfy our needs and to really believe that we are worthy of love and respect, and to know that all we need to be is the “true me” and that is enough.
Knowing the “true me” is always enough to understand that the inner critic has no more power over us. We can take effective control of our thoughts and feelings, and make friends with the true me. That is, and always will be, enough.
This is wellness.
Samantha Doyle offers therapies in the Dublin Wellness Centre. Get in touch with her for more information and to book an appointment